Don't you hate parents?

I had a totally different experience in life than everyone else here. I largely had it handed to me, with a supportive, loving mom and a dad who really wasn't there emotionally but was supportive in the way he could - financially.

I've messed up quite a bit, but I've managed to learn from it. Having just summer jobs (from renovations to cashier to jeweler), hobbies (RC, reefkeeping, gaming, paintball, blading, LARPing, table tennis, swimming....I could still go on, but you get the idea), and odd jobs for the majority of my life, I've picked up all those handy and technical skills, and eventually made my way into a software development company. I'm still the person everyone in the family asks for help, whether it's with the garden, plumbing, patching holes in the wall, electronics, the alarm system on the house, relationship issues, or their computer. I also do dishes, take out the garbage, do the wash, and clean the house like any normal person.

I think it may not be understood by people who haven't had my experience, but having parents who are detached (and in some cases, evil), and not having any financial support, and being forced to do everything themselves, doesn't make someone a better person than someone with a great family, no chores (yes, I was extremely lucky in this regard haha), and abundant material support.

For every person who comes out of that abusive situation and better themselves, there's another three who end up just like their parents. There's a reason these abusive situations exist, and it's not because these people magically appear. It's because its what they know and learn as they grow up, and they mimic it. If you survive it, do well in life, and then manage not to subject your kids to the same thing at some point, it's at that point that you truly become the fortunate one.

 

Looks like we all have our ups and downs. Some parents make you support yourselves. Others get it easy. As for me, I'm pretty much looking after myself with constant criticism.

 

Woa Nelly that is NOT AT ALL what I was saying nor do I see anyone else saying they are better then anyone else.

 

It would definitely be implied by these two statements.

 

How so? Sorry that is just not there nor is it remotely my intention of the posts.

Saying I think it's good for kids to learn the value of money is not saying I am better then you. Saying I had to do chores is not saying I am better then you.

While we are on the subject of assumptions or implying things...

I had a loving family that was there for me at all times. Your assumption I didn't have "great family" is a rather lame assumption to make, post, and it simply not true.

 

I think it is important for kids to learn the value of money instead of blow-holing it out on everything they see. I think it all depends on your attitude on how you end up. Some people take the worst of things to make a good. For example, my parents have never gone to any of my football/basketball/soccer/tennis/track/marching band/concert band/ or award ceremonies or did they financially support me in anyway. And I'm proving them wrong that I can't do anything by going to a private school, getting my own car, building reef tanks, being recognized in the district in all I listed up there.

 

all in all just rember that they are your parents but some have issues.

my mom great get along better since i got married and moved out ;D

my dad I havent talked to him in about 2 years he has problems ans so does my step mom and half sister and shes only 3

but you have to some times just let them be "adults" and talk to them both and then seperatly about how you feel to try to open a line of communication that might make thing better.

also have you talked to tyou sister about it? just to see

 

I fully agree. You have a lot to do with determining your own future by your attitude alone

Dude you played all those sports? You sound like a highly motivated person, kudos!!!

 

You were saying that you think that the value of a dollar is important for kids to learn ("I think having kids learn the worth of money at such a young age is a good thing.") - which is a way of saying that it makes kids better later in life than kids who do not have said experience. You also say you've had that experience in your life ("I've always known the value of good hard work and a dollar"). Ergo, you indirectly imply that you're better because you learned the value of money at a young age by working.

I also didn't assume you had a bad family. You're making assumptions about my entire first post in this thread being pointed at you, which it is not, nor is there anything in it to even imply such.

 

Who said...."If it don't kill ya, it'll make ya stronger?"

No two people are the same, we come from different backgrounds and experiences in life, a lot of us have our skeletons in the closet which is good to know since I thought I had the only disfunctional family on 3Reef.
I am sure no one meant any harm. We are all just letting the kid and each other know that we've had experiences in life and how we feel about that experience.
We've survived our hardships and our childhood... and.... we all crossed paths due to the same shared love...Saltwater Critters!