Question for all married couples

Fellow Reefers,
I am in the doghouse with my fiance and I need to take a poll concerning bridal showers. Men and Women can chime in here.

Should the groom attend the bridal shower(s).

My scenerio.

My sister is throwing my fiance a bridal shower in August. She planned the shower on a weekend that she new her husband and my other brother-in-law would have something to do ie...get away from the house and it happens to be a golf outting. My brother-in-laws asked me if I was going to the shower and if not did I want to go golfing with them, while the shower goes on. I told them I would consult with my fiance to see how she feels.

I consulted with her and asked her only a question about whether she wanted me at the shower or not and she got really upset with me. Actually she hasn't spoken to me in 2 days and we live in the same house together. My sister on the other hand doesn't see why I would want to be there with 50 women with pretty much nothing to do.

 

A bridal shower is nothing more than a bachelorette party. That is why it was planned while the men were going to be away. Take the golfing trip and let it be. Maybe the golfing trip is a surprise bachelors party in the making.


When I was getting married I dropped my wife off at the bridal shower me and my brothers and friends were supposed to go to BW3 a bar and hang out but ended up being a bachelors party and come to find out the females had a dancer of their own. No harm done

 

Karma chetrod......that's pretty much how I look at it. Except that all the presents are really for the both of us.

 

I did not go to the Bridal shower. I went out with my, at that time, future father-in-law and brother-in-law. We just went out to eat and hang out (the bachelor party was a different day).

If you're really in a jam you could talk to her sister and have her tell your fiancee that she (the sister) doesn't want you there... just a girls thing. More than likely your fiancee will be cool with it then... Can always promote the "bonding" that will occur when you go hang out with your brother-in-laws. You can always suggest doing something together, just the two of you later that night also...

Wedding can be a touchy time though, emotions run high, nerves can run raw very quick... just step lightly and you should be just fine. =)

 

I thought Men were not to attend Showers?

Maybe it was the tone you used to ask the Question LOL

Jason

 

I don't think I used any type of tone :-/ , we never discussed the showers and she never expressed to me that she wants me there. I guess she assumed, but from what I can tell she is the only women who thinks the groom should be there. What is a man to do aarrg!

 

I know there are some female 3reefers, I would like to hear what they have to say as well.

 

For what it is worth, I have been married for 5 years now, and the one thing I have learned is happy wife, happy life.

 

OK, my 'fiance' (now hubby of 15 years) did not goto my shower.

I did not mind if he came or not!

They are quite boring (which may be why she wants you to go!) ;D

He did stay for the baby shower tho!

 

LOL You poor man

Bridal Showers are ( of course ) traditionally for Brides

If you can still make some changes, explain to your fiance that you are NOT GOING OUT WITH THE BOYS AND HAVING A HEAP OF FUN WHILE SHE HAS TO SUFFER, and that you will be visiting ( make up some really boring place ) and then maybe she wont be so upset

Then, go out and play golf, why should you both be bored aye?

John