Smart peoples assertive message pressentation

i dont have a clue on how to start this or what the instructor is asking cant find any examples online Any help its due tommmorow last minute i am thanks

Assertive Message Report​

The objective of this exercise is to write and deliver a complete assertive message as
defined in your text, Chapter 7 – Improving Interpersonal Relationships.
After reading the chapter and especially the explanation of what an effective assertive
message is (page 213) think of a scenario in which you could apply this type of
message.
Then write a complete assertive message, deliver it and be prepared to report back to
the class on your experience.
1. Explained a conflict (behavior that bothered you) and the circumstances in which
it occurred (the who, what, where and when of the circumstances).
2. Explained why this behavior troubled you (interpretation, feeling,
consequence statements)
3. Explained what you wanted the person to do (intention statement)
4. Composed a complete assertive message that you then delivered to another
person
5. Described the other person’s response and the effectiveness of the Assertive
Message (Should you have done something differently to make the message​

more effective?)

 

sounds easy... just look in the book and see what the book outlines as characteristic of assertive behavior. from there make up a situation that expresses the main points of this assertive behavior.

according to google assertive behavior consists of 4 key aspects:
1. Non-judgmental description of the behavior to be changed.
2. Disclosure of the assertor's feelings.
3. Clarification of the concrete and tangible effect of the other person's behavior on the assertor.
4. Description of the behavior that would be more satisfactory.

Now your book will likely deviate from these points but this will help you to know what you should look out for in the section.

 

1) My parents fought on a regular basis, when I was very young, they would argue and at times exchange blows, leaving my sister, brother and I hiding in our bedrooms

2) this troubled me for mixed reasons, the fear of it being the last ever row, parents splitting up, and the fact that the quality of my own life along with the lives of my siblings was severely affected

3) I wanted both persons to stop fighting

4) the assertive message was not delivered until after I left home and had 2 daughters of my own - on a visit to see my parents, which was by invitation and there was no cancellation , we arrived to find them in non speaking to each other mode, which was uncomfortable but bearable , only for that to break out into full insult warfare during the evening meal

the message I delivered was as follows
" you pair caused my brother and sister and I a lot of pain and discomfort during our childhood and youth, and those are the only 3 young people who you are going to be allowed to affect in this manner , either the arguing stops, or my kids and I will be leaving and to be honest, I have no idea when we would come back

5) reponse from 2 people feeling very guilty was " would the children like some ice cream after dinner"

and the row ended

Id like to say it never happened again - but they where so set in their ways, nothing was ever going to change them


something like the above - you need to expand on it a bit naturally

but thats what the teacher is looking for

Steve

 

Awsome thanks so much life saver